Third Lesson about MASTURBATION

Masturbation

Masturbation is a sexual stimulation deliberate on sex organs to obtain pleasure and sexual satisfaction. This stimulation can be performed without a tool or use something object or tool, or a combination thereof. Masturbation is a form autoerotisisme the most common, although it may also be done with the help of the (people) other.
Neutral terms (in Indonesian) "masturbation" borrowed from English, masturbation. There are two versions of the etymology for this word. The first is from the Greek word, mezea (μεζεα, plural for penis) or from a combination of Latin words, manus (hand) and turbare (annoying). The other version is a combination of Latin word manus (hand) and stuprare (playing), so that means "playing [the penis] with his hands." In the language of Malays, known as masturbate masturbation activity, but this word in everyday use in Indonesia is rarely used anymore. As a result of masturbation is considered taboo in Indonesian culture openly discussed, words often used metaphorically to refer to these actions, such as "churning", "soap game", and so forth. In colloquial Indonesian, said coli is also frequently used.

Controversy masturbation
In many societies until the 20th century that masturbation is not considered a good thing. Notion of shame and sin are already entrenched due to the portion of "abuse" in the word has remained in the modern translation - even though medical authorities have agreed that masturbation causes no physical or mental harm. Nor is there evidence that children who engage in self-stimulation could be harmed by it.

What happens is, an important source of sexual satisfaction is by some circles still responded with guilt and anxiety because of their ignorance that masturbation is a safe activity, as well as centuries of religious teachings that regard it as a sinful activity. Moreover, many of us have received negative messages from our parents, or been punished when caught masturbating during childhood. Cumulative effects of these events are often intangible confusion and guilt that is often difficult to sort out. Moment in which masturbation became so dangerous is when he had penetrated the soul (compulsive). Compulsive masturbation - as other mental health behaviors - is a sign of psychiatric problems and need to get treatment from a psychiatrist.

Contrary to ancient beliefs, masturbation does not lead to unbridled lust, you will not cause blindness or deafness, cause you cold, crazy, grow hair on your hands, stutter, or kill you. [2] Masturbation is a natural expression of sexuality and not harmful to man and woman, and an excellent way to experience sexual pleasure. In fact, some experts argue that masturbation could improve sexual health because it increases one's understanding will be body parts and how pleasing, building self-confidence and attitude can understand ourselves. [3] This knowledge can then be taken to obtain a sexual relationship satisfactorily in the future, either by masturbation couples together, or because they can tell each other what is most pleasing to them. This is a good idea for every couple to discuss the behavior of their masturbation and to calm the couple if at any time one of them would prefer to masturbate rather than intercourse. [4]

In some cases, masturbation together may be acceptable. Done alone or in the presence of a partner, these activities can be fun and add to mutual intimacy if it is not considered as a rejection. Like other activities, if this was not communicated well, masturbation can be interpreted as a sign of anger, alienation, or unhappiness of an ongoing relationship. [5]

Form of sexual activity which is done by couples marsturbasi called mutual masturbation in which each stimulate each other and masturbating each other or see each other masturbating. [6]

By overcoming the negative stereotypes of society and personal feelings of individuals about masturbation men and women could freely explore and experience their sexuality private, with a satisfactory manner. One caveat: to keep getting safer sex, masturbation with a partner can be an enjoyable alternative to intercourse, as long as contact with vaginal lubrication gland Cowper's or spouse be avoided, especially if it has scratches or open wounds.

Religious views

Islam

There is a difference of opinion in this case. First illegitimate, and second is fine. Scholars who argue thus, basing keharamannya on Qur'an Sura Al-Mu'minuun :5-7, which means: "And those people who mememelihara privates except to his wife or bondsmen, so that they are impeccable. But whoever Thus it would other than that, they were the people who crossed the line. " It is also forbidden based on the premise that people who released syahwatnya supposing that masturbation is not in place. As it was clearly not allowed.

Moderate cleric who allow masturbation or masturbation is reasonable that the semen is something more. Therefore be excluded. In fact, it was likened by cutting the meat more. Thus the opinion is supported Imam Hambali and Ibn Hazm. Moderate cleric Hanafiah provides limits of permissibility in the circumstances:

* Fear of making adultery;
* Not being able to marry (but excessive lust).

Rasulullah SAW has also been taught how to avoid a flood of lust, for youth who have not been able to marry, should fast often do, because the wisdom of fasting, and fasting can stem the lust or lust. Word of the Apostle: "O youths, whosoever of you guys already have the ability (physical and housekeep capital), then marry because marriage can tame the views and genitals. But whoever is not able, then he should fast, because it can stem the fast lust. (Narrated by Bukhari).